Marriage is a big commitment. Ideally it is a lifelong commitment. Yet couples are often too shy to discuss the issues that really matter in making that commitment. Questions about finances, child rearing, and religion are important, as issues related to these questions are often cited as reasons for divorce. These questions are often avoided, or only spoken about superficially, because society tells us that the topics are sensitive. In the New York Times article, 13 Questions to Ask Before Getting Married (2016), author Elenore Stanford outlines the questions couples should discuss before getting married along with a rationale as to why the issue is important in a long-term relationship.
Although couples may find the task daunting, setting aside to discuss these issues can prevent heartache and disappointment during the marriage. The answers to these questions may help a couple lay out a plan for having children, for saving and spending, and for spending time during the holidays with both sides of the family. While it may not seem romantic, some of these questions can help the couple in determining a pre-nuptial agreement that meets their needs.
If you are in a committed long-term relationship, consider discussing these questions with your significant other. For a list of the questions and the rationale explaining their importance, see this NYTIMES Article.
If you would like to sit down with an experienced family law attorney before tying the knot, contact the attorneys at Parra Harris Law (904) 900-1617.
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